A day no mother should ever have to go through. I got a call today from a friend at church. It was obvious she was crying, when I asked what was wrong, she told me that our friend's baby had died! I asked her what I could do and she asked me if I could go to the hospital to be with the Mom and Dad. The baby had just been declared dead. My friend D had stopped by A's house after our homeschool testing. She wanted to see the babies, twin 7 mos old boys and a 4 month old girl (adopted dom. at birth). The littlest one, baby A., was in bed sleeping. When D went up to peek in on her, she found her blue and not breathing. D and A both tried CPR and called the ambulance, the ambulance transported her, they intubated her and tried everything they could on the way. The hospital continued to try, but baby A. was already sitting on Jesus' lap and could not come back to her earthly family.
When I got to the hospital, Mommy and Daddy were in the room, and Mommy was rocking baby A. We wept together and then she asked me if I wanted to hold A. for a while. Of course I did. It's so unbelievable how she just looked like she was sleeping, so peaceful and beautiful, wrapped in a blanket, but oh so cold and still. It almost felt like if I held her close enough and warmed her up, that she would start breathing again. Crazy, I know, but that was the feeling I had, even though as a nurse, I knew that wasn't going to happen. A. told the staff, and the others from our church who were present, that I had been the first person, other than family, to hold baby A. when they brought her home. I had forgotten that, how bitter sweet.
When A. and T. first found out that baby A's bio. mom was pregnant and wanted an abortion, they prayed about it, and told her that they would adopt the baby. A. had called me and asked me what I thought about it, if I thought that she could handle it, since she had 4 children under 3, two of which were newborn twins. I told her that if she and her husband felt that God had put it on their hearts to adopt baby A., that they should obey God's call, if that was what God was telling them to do. I said that adoption isn't easy, just like parenting a biological child isn't easy, but if we seek God and His will for our lives, He will be faithful to help us. I put them in touch with their attorney (the man we used for our adoptions) and helped them with their paperwork and homestudy prep. It truly was an honor to help another family in the adoption process.
We celebrated their joy with them in adding a new baby to their family, I just didn't expect to be called upon to help them with the loss of their "healthy" baby. All we can count on is that baby A. is with God in Heaven and that we will see her again. A. just called me, at 11:30 pm, she knew I'd be up, she couldn't sleep. She shared with me that she just wants her baby to come home. What do you say to a mother who has a broken heart? There really isn't much to say or do, so I just listened to her cry and talk about the beautiful little girl that she will never see grow up.
I beg anyone that may read this, PLEASE hold this family up in prayer, not only for the next few days, but for the weeks, months and years that are to follow. This will not be something that they can "get over" any time soon. That's what A. kept saying tonight, "I just want to get over it", I told her to call on God and to ask Him to wrap His loving arms around her and give her the comfort that only He can give. How I wish my words, actions or tears could do something that would help them heal quicker/easier, but I know that isn't the case, so I ask you all, to please ask God to comfort them and to feel His love for them through the words and actions of those around them. We are a small church family, but we love one another dearly, and I know that there will be much support for our dear friends as they go through this painful time in their lives.
Asking for prayer...
Tuesday, May 19, 2009
Sunday, May 10, 2009
One Blessed Momma
Today was not only a wonderful Mother's Day, it was our three youngest's church dedication. It's just a simple ceremony, but is oh so filled with meaning. It is our public proclamation that we will raise our children for God, we have obviously already vowed that, as christians and as parents. It is also our church's time to vow to come along side us and aide us and hold us accountable.
We were blessed to have my parents there as well. There were two other families dedicating some of their younger children as well. They asked us to tell a little bit about how our children came to our families, if it wasn't the "typical" way, lol. So, of course I got to put a plug in for special needs adoptions, specifically Down Syndrome :o) . The Pastor asked Bob and I if we were going to add more to our family, I paused, because we don't have a clear leading one way or the other at this time, so I just told him, "God's will", lol, everyone gave a little chuckle, all except my parents, right Dad and Mum? ROFL But I have learned not to say "never" when it comes to God.
It has been a great day, my darling hubby made dinner for my parents and I, Manicotti that I had put in the freezer earlier, pork chops on the grill, tossed salad, apple sauce and rainbow sherbet for dessert. It was very nice. I got some plants from my children and my parents, so I'll be able to add some perennials to my garden :o) . I'm pretty much a; plant it once and weed only, type of gal.
I pray you all had a blessed Mother's Day, I sure did.
We were blessed to have my parents there as well. There were two other families dedicating some of their younger children as well. They asked us to tell a little bit about how our children came to our families, if it wasn't the "typical" way, lol. So, of course I got to put a plug in for special needs adoptions, specifically Down Syndrome :o) . The Pastor asked Bob and I if we were going to add more to our family, I paused, because we don't have a clear leading one way or the other at this time, so I just told him, "God's will", lol, everyone gave a little chuckle, all except my parents, right Dad and Mum? ROFL But I have learned not to say "never" when it comes to God.
It has been a great day, my darling hubby made dinner for my parents and I, Manicotti that I had put in the freezer earlier, pork chops on the grill, tossed salad, apple sauce and rainbow sherbet for dessert. It was very nice. I got some plants from my children and my parents, so I'll be able to add some perennials to my garden :o) . I'm pretty much a; plant it once and weed only, type of gal.
I pray you all had a blessed Mother's Day, I sure did.
Saturday, May 9, 2009
Blogging funk
Don't know why, but I've been in a blogging funk. I've still been reading others, although not as many as usual, but I just couldn't get myself to write on my own.
Our oldest three are doing fine and living on their own. Joseph is almost done with his "second" curriculum for the year. We are STILL behind on math though. I'm thinking I may get him a tutor. I seem to not be able to explain things to him in a way that he can remember/comprehend, so maybe someone different might just help him get over the hump, I'll have to pray about it a bit more. He's having fun with his gym class and co-op. He's been having a busy social life with various friends lately, which is fun for him.
Anah is doing terrific. She is participating in her speech class at the elem. school. She isn't speaking, but is doing the crafts and playing on the playground. At church she is staying with us during church service, but goes to Sunday school on Sunday and Wens. with the kids! She doesn't always do things, but at least she is staying without me! Co-op is also progressing well. She is staying in the preschool where she is playing with blocks and play doh and interacting with her teacher, Louisa, Miki, her friend with DS, two typical preschoolers and Jonathan. She is having fun outside on our s wings and slide and has been a little helper in the yard. She enjoys the beach and playing in the sand and throwing rocks in the lake. She is making more verbal sounds, but no words yet. Her comprehension grows more each day.
Jonathan is also doing terrific! He is walking all over and it is now his primary mode of moving. He will still crawl at times and crawls at lightening speed. He is bouncing on the mini trampoline, but his feet aren't leaving the mat yet, but he is getting the idea. He likes to "dance", that consists of walking quickly in circles, lol. He gets laughing so hard he can't even move, he's a limp noodle on the floor. He's vocalizing a lot, it's usually: ada, dad, da are his most common sounds, he does say Mom and Mom mom. He loves watching fast moving sports on tv and gets so excited he can barely stand himself, lol. His latest thing is taking his clothes off, unfortunately, it's not when I want him to! He keeps working his pants or shorts off. His shoes and socks have been long gone for quite some time now. He can get his shirt off sometimes. He's working on trying to unsnap his onesie, I pray he doesn't figure that out any time soon, because I have no doubt the diaper will be right behind it!
We still haven't gotten Anah's medicaid, at least another couple months, so she can't see an eye specialist or have her oral surgery until then, since our co pays are over 1500 for the dental work, and she doesn't appear to have any visual problems, or we would bring her sooner. Jonathan's special glasses didn't fit, so we got another couple pairs from Specs4us to try, then we'll return the two that we don't want. He also had to wait for the optical dept. to get in some "medicaid" frames, we will use those glasses as back up, we have to pay for the lenses for the other glasses, medicaid won't put lenses in those frames instead, go figure. Anyway, getting the frames directly from Specs4us and then getting lenses here is still cheaper by about $100 than getting them from another optical shop that stocks the frames.
We've been busy with therapies, homeschooling, church and co-op. Tomorrow our children are getting dedicated at church, it should be a blessing! Mom and Dad are coming for it and then are staying for Mother's day. We are having tossed salad, stuffed manicotti (I made it earlier) and pork chops on the grill, this way Bob can cook for Mom and I ;o) . I'm blessed to have great children, an awesome husband and terrific parents! My mother in laws birthday was yesterday, unfortunately we can't be with her this weekend, she's in Philly, so we sent her some plants which she will be able to transplant at her home or at the cottage.
Today we may have a thunder storm, I hope so, I love thunder and lightening storms, it will be our first of the season, so here's hoping.
Our oldest three are doing fine and living on their own. Joseph is almost done with his "second" curriculum for the year. We are STILL behind on math though. I'm thinking I may get him a tutor. I seem to not be able to explain things to him in a way that he can remember/comprehend, so maybe someone different might just help him get over the hump, I'll have to pray about it a bit more. He's having fun with his gym class and co-op. He's been having a busy social life with various friends lately, which is fun for him.
Anah is doing terrific. She is participating in her speech class at the elem. school. She isn't speaking, but is doing the crafts and playing on the playground. At church she is staying with us during church service, but goes to Sunday school on Sunday and Wens. with the kids! She doesn't always do things, but at least she is staying without me! Co-op is also progressing well. She is staying in the preschool where she is playing with blocks and play doh and interacting with her teacher, Louisa, Miki, her friend with DS, two typical preschoolers and Jonathan. She is having fun outside on our s wings and slide and has been a little helper in the yard. She enjoys the beach and playing in the sand and throwing rocks in the lake. She is making more verbal sounds, but no words yet. Her comprehension grows more each day.
Jonathan is also doing terrific! He is walking all over and it is now his primary mode of moving. He will still crawl at times and crawls at lightening speed. He is bouncing on the mini trampoline, but his feet aren't leaving the mat yet, but he is getting the idea. He likes to "dance", that consists of walking quickly in circles, lol. He gets laughing so hard he can't even move, he's a limp noodle on the floor. He's vocalizing a lot, it's usually: ada, dad, da are his most common sounds, he does say Mom and Mom mom. He loves watching fast moving sports on tv and gets so excited he can barely stand himself, lol. His latest thing is taking his clothes off, unfortunately, it's not when I want him to! He keeps working his pants or shorts off. His shoes and socks have been long gone for quite some time now. He can get his shirt off sometimes. He's working on trying to unsnap his onesie, I pray he doesn't figure that out any time soon, because I have no doubt the diaper will be right behind it!
We still haven't gotten Anah's medicaid, at least another couple months, so she can't see an eye specialist or have her oral surgery until then, since our co pays are over 1500 for the dental work, and she doesn't appear to have any visual problems, or we would bring her sooner. Jonathan's special glasses didn't fit, so we got another couple pairs from Specs4us to try, then we'll return the two that we don't want. He also had to wait for the optical dept. to get in some "medicaid" frames, we will use those glasses as back up, we have to pay for the lenses for the other glasses, medicaid won't put lenses in those frames instead, go figure. Anyway, getting the frames directly from Specs4us and then getting lenses here is still cheaper by about $100 than getting them from another optical shop that stocks the frames.
We've been busy with therapies, homeschooling, church and co-op. Tomorrow our children are getting dedicated at church, it should be a blessing! Mom and Dad are coming for it and then are staying for Mother's day. We are having tossed salad, stuffed manicotti (I made it earlier) and pork chops on the grill, this way Bob can cook for Mom and I ;o) . I'm blessed to have great children, an awesome husband and terrific parents! My mother in laws birthday was yesterday, unfortunately we can't be with her this weekend, she's in Philly, so we sent her some plants which she will be able to transplant at her home or at the cottage.
Today we may have a thunder storm, I hope so, I love thunder and lightening storms, it will be our first of the season, so here's hoping.
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